Background
Rationale for the study
Objectives
Conceptual framework and hypothetical model
Methods
Study design
Participants
Setting and intervention
Session | Theme (Each theme is applied for 2 h every week) | Performance objective Participants will: | Contents | Method |
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1 | What is emotion coaching? | • Increase their understanding of the programme • Increase their willingness to participate in the programme | • Pre-test • Introduction of group programme progress and facilitators • Importance of emotions • Definition and principles of emotion coaching • Set collective rules • Sharing motivation for participation and expectations for the programme | Small-group lecture and talk |
2 | How about my parenting style? | • Identify their parenting style • Understand the impact of meta-emotion on parenting • Practice the three-step self-soothing method | • Types of parenting styles and own parenting styles • Relation between meta-emotion and parenting style • Meta-emotion check • Three-step self-regulation (heart breathing) • Task: emotion diary to maintain composure, exercise | Small-group lecture and practice |
3 | Emotion coaching step 1_ Be aware of your child’s emotion | • Verbally express the relation between attachment loss and smart device overdependence • Express the confidence to apply step 1 of emotion coaching | • Importance of attachment • Side effects of overdependence on smart devices • Play for attachment formation • Step 1 of emotion coaching • Meaning of “accept all the child’s feelings but modify the behaviour” • Various human emotions and their importance • Capturing emotions through facial expressions (practice) | Small-group lecture Group activity |
4 | Emotion coaching step 2_ Recognize your child’s expression of emotion as a perfect moment for intimacy and teaching | • Understand the developmental characteristics of preschool children • Appropriately apply the second stage of emotion coaching to the situation | • Developmental and behavioural characteristics of preschool children • Step 2 of emotion coaching • Sharing moments of emotions you want to avoid, capturing coaching moments • Skills required for emotion control (control of volume, tone, and speed of voice) | |
5 | Emotion coaching step 3_ Listen with empathy and validate your child’s feelings | • Practice by understanding the attitude for step 3 of emotion coaching • Participants understand and apply the delivery method | • Step 3 of emotion coaching • Importance of empathy and the skill of active listening in emotion coaching • I-massage (practice) | Small-group lecture Group activity |
6 | Emotion coaching step 4_ Help your child learn to label their emotions with words Emotion coaching step 5_ Set limits when you are helping your child solve problems or deal with upsetting situations appropriately | • Understand and apply steps 4 and 5 of emotion coaching | • Effect of step 4 of emotion coaching • Helping children express their emotions • Effects of five steps of emotion coaching • How to apply the five steps of emotion coaching using role play • Unsuitable situations during emotion coaching application | Small-group lecture Group activity |
7 | Intensive emotion coaching training | • Identify and improve the factors that cause difficulty in applying the five steps of emotion coaching | • Desirable emotion coaching practice strategy • Comprehensive application of the five steps of emotion coaching | Small-group lecture Group activity |
8 | I’m a good mom | • Discover yourself growing through emotion coaching and design a positive future | • Preparation for change (my life curve viewed with emotion, what I felt through the programme, what changed, words of praise to me, hopes and commitments for the future) • Resilience • Sending thanks to one another • Termination of group programme • Post-test | Group activity |
Questionnaire
We also used the Adult Emotional Quotient Test (AEQT) used by Moon [26] based on the emotional intelligence model of Salovey and Mayer [27]. This tool has 45 items: 37 items are scored on a three-point Likert scale measured as not so (1 point), sometimes likely (2 points), and always likely (3 points); for 8 items, the respondent selects the item that they think is the most similar among the two items. The total score ranges from 45 to 127, with a higher score indicating higher emotional intelligence. In our study, Cronbach’s α was 0.86.
Semi‑structured interview
Data collection
Ethical considerations
Data analysis
Quantitative analysis
Qualitative analysis
Results
General characteristics
Characteristics | Categories | Exp. (n = 25) | Con. (n = 26) | t/z/ χ2 | P |
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n (%) or M (SD) | N (%) or M (SD) | ||||
Mother’s age | 36.28 (4.84) | 37.50 (2.97) | -1.08 | 0.286 | |
Education | < High school Vocational college College graduate Over graduate school | 2 (8.0) 9 (36.0) 11 (44.0) 3 (12.0) | 2 (7.7) 5 (19.2) 12 (46.2) 7 (26.9) | 2.81* | 0.434 |
Occupation | Homemaker Full-time job Part-time job Unemployed | 11 (44.0) 6 (24.0) 5 (20.0) 3 (12.0) | 14 (53.9) 6 (23.1) 3 (11.5) 3 (11.5) | 0.97* | 0.888 |
Religion | Yes No | 10 (40.0) 15 (60.0) | 13 (50.0) 13 (50.0) | 0.52 | 0.473 |
Smart device usage time per day, hours (SD) | 2.3 (2.2) | 2.8 (2.1) | -1.11† | 0.267 | |
Monthly income (10,000 KRW) | < 200 201–400 401< | 0 10 (40.0) 15 (60.0) | 0 11 (42.3) 15 (57.7) | 0.16 | 0.870 |
Child’s sex | Girls Boys | 13 (52.0) 12 (48.0) | 11 (42.3) 15 (57.7) | 0.48 | 0.488 |
Age (years) | 3 4 5 6 | 4 (16.0) 7 (28.0) 11 (44.0) 3 (12.0) | 2 (7.7) 5 (19.2) 12 (46.2) 7 (26.9) | 3.85* | 0.277 |
Birth order | First Second Third< | 20 (80.0) 3 (12.0) 2 (8.0) | 18 (69.2) 7 (26.9) 1 (3.9) | 2.03* | 0.456 |
Purpose of use (multiple responses, n = 104) | Education Recreation Babysitting Begging Including all | 7 (15.6) 23 (51.1) 7 (15.6) 8 (17.7) 45 (100) | 12 (20.3) 26 (44.1) 13 (22.0) 8 (13.6) 59 (100) | ||
Smart device usage time per day, hours (before participation) | 2.3 (1.7) | 2.7 (1.5) | -1.36† | 0.175 |
Comparison of the groups’ mean scores before and after intervention
Variables | Exp. (n = 25) | Con. (n = 26) | t/z | p |
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Mean ± SD | Mean ± SD | |||
Preschool children’s smart device overdependence | 26.56 ± 2.96 | 27.54 ± 2.83 | -1.40† | 0.160 |
Mothers’ emotional intelligence | 96.04 ± 10.03 | 96.15 ± 9.16 | -0.04 | 0.966 |
Mothers’ positive parenting behaviour | 44.36 ± 5.72 | 47.08 ± 6.05 | -1.65 | 0.106 |
Mothers’ negative parenting behaviour | 27.16 ± 4.09 | 28.04 ± 4.63 | -0.72 | 0.477 |
Preschool children’s stable attachment | 3.16 ± 0.42 | 3.11 ± 0.42 | -0.65† | 0.514 |
Preschool children’s unstable attachment | 2.09 ± 0.41 | 2.04 ± 0.51 | 0.42 | 0.674 |
Programme effectiveness
Variables | Group | Pre | Post | Follow Up | Source | χ2 | P | Difference (Post-Pre) | Difference (Post 4weeks-Pre) | ||||
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M ± SE | M ± SE | M ± SE | M ± SE | χ2 | p | M ± SE | χ2 | p | |||||
Smart device overdependence | Exp. (n = 25) | 26.56 ± 0.58 | 18.36 ± 0.76 | 18.90 ± 0.85 | G T GxT | 17.94 87.82 14.48 | < 0.001 < 0.001 0.001 | -8.20 ± 0.71 | 12.63 | < 0.001 | -7.66 ± 0.73 | 11.25 | 0.001 |
Con. (n = 26) | 27.54 ± 0.55 | 24.23 ± 1.08 | 24.15 ± 1.09 | -3.31 ± 1.18 | -3.39 ± 1.04 | ||||||||
Mothers’ emotional intelligence | Exp. (n = 25) | 96.04 ± 1.97 | 103.56 ± 2.01 | 104.08 ± 2.20 | G T GxT | 3.25 25.62 14.99 | 0.072 < 0.001 0.001 | 7.52 ± 1.22 | 13.85 | < 0.001 | 8.04 ± 1.37 | 12.54 | < 0.001 |
Con. (n = 26) | 96.15 ± 1.76 | 96.46 ± 1.69 | 97.57 ± 1.72 | 0.31 ± 1.51 | 1.42 ± 1.27 | ||||||||
Mothers’ positive parenting behaviour | Exp. (n = 25) | 44.36 ± 1.12 | 49.36 ± 1.18 | 49.39 ± 1.36 | G T GxT | 0.51 34.27 9.32 | 0.474 < 0.001 0.009 | 5.00 ± 0.97 | 7.17 | 0.007 | 5.03 ± 1.05 | 0.79 | 0.376 |
Con. (n = 26) | 47.08 ± 1.16 | 48.65 ± 1.31 | 50.74 ± 1.23 | 1.57 ± 0.83 | 3.66 ± 1.13 | ||||||||
Mothers’ negative parenting behaviour | Exp. (n = 25) | 27.16 ± 0.80 | 23.64 ± 0.91 | 24.20 ± 0.90 | G T GxT | 4.74 15.70 4.79 | 0.029 < 0.001 0.091 | -3.52 ± 0.93 | 4.02 | 0.045 | -2.96 ± 0.86 | 3.64 | 0.056 |
Con. (n = 26) | 28.04 ± 0.89 | 27.04 ± 0.97 | 27.17 ± 1.00 | -1.00 ± 0.84 | -0.87 ± 0.69 | ||||||||
Preschool children’s attachment stability | Exp. (n = 25) | 3.16 ± 0.08 | 3.36 ± 0.08 | 3.31 ± 0.06 | G T GxT | 0.52 20.05 2.46 | 0.470 < 0.001 0.292 | 0.20 ± 0.05 | 1.29 | 0.257 | 0.15 ± 0.08 | 0.01 | 0.937 |
Con. (n = 26) | 3.11 ± 0.08 | 3.23 ± 0.08 | 3.27 ± 0.08 | 0.12 ± 0.06 | 0.16 ± 0.04 | ||||||||
Preschool children’s attachment instability | Exp. (n = 25) | 2.09 ± 0.08 | 1.86 ± 0.07 | 1.80 ± 0.08 | G T GxT | 2.55 4.41 9.49 | 0.110 0.110 0.009 | -0.23 ± 0.07 | 4.93 | 0.026 | -0.29 ± 0.09 | 9.04 | 0.003 |
Con. (n = 26) | 2.03 ± 0.10 | 2.04 ± 0.08 | 2.16 ± 0.11 | 0.01 ± 0.08 | 0.13 ± 0.11 |
Theme | Sub-theme | Contents |
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Hope for desirable parenting without emotional difficulties | Emotional challenges experienced from the attempt to control smartphone device use | Concerns about increased smartphone use Parenting behaviour characterized by anger and threats Repeated cycle of anger, guilt, and regret |
Wish to not pass down emotional distress | Frequently experienced anxiety and anger Parenting style resembling my own parents’ Emotional distress that should not be passed down | |
Feelings touched by reflection | Changes in the awareness of my and my child’s feelings | Newly discovered value of feelings Ignoring the child’s feelings because of their age Feelings that had been suppressed for considering them weak and inappropriate |
Being able to empathize with the child’s feelings through effort | Letting go of the obsession over parenting skills Intentional effort to empathize with the child Increased empathy while listening to the child Understanding the child’s feelings through role play | |
Being able to perceive the value of self by paying attention to feelings | Guilt arising from practice that deviates from what has been learned My values that had only been perceived by performing my roles Feeling sorry for myself for neglecting my feelings Perceiving unconditional self-worth Acknowledging that I am already a good mother Beginning to take care of self through compassion “Feeling journal” helped with rational processing of feelings | |
Needs expressed based on recognition of feelings | Feelings accepted as is without suppressing or minimizing them Problems being solved based on feelings | |
Warm but authoritative parenting | Warm parenting focused on emotion | Acknowledging the child as a unique human being with dignity Expressing positive feelings more actively Prioritizing the child’s care over house chores Applying emotion coaching to my care |
Mother’s authority established | Reflecting on the double standards for smartphone use Adjusting smartphone limits in consideration of the child’s opinions Strengthening emotion coaching competence using supervision | |
Children who became responsible by gaining psychological stability | Child’s stability and rich emotional expression | Less frequent crying and tantrums Child’s softer language Increased use of feeling words and expression of affection |
Child’s voluntary and responsible behaviours | Cleaning up voluntarily Child’s taking responsibility of their decisions Looking after sibling voluntarily | |
Changed view of my home | Playing with mom replaces smart device use | Playing with mom in place of using a smart device Playing with mom becomes more fun Increased creative play |
More peaceful home | Home free of yelling and crying |
Now that I listen to my child’s feelings, my child does not turn on the TV. Just doesn’t turn on the TV. My child watches TV because of boredom and having nothing to do. But I played some games with my child like Jenga when we were alone. That was just a little bit of time but I guess that kind of satisfied my child’s needs. (Participant 10)
I kind of feel like I’ve become calm. Like, once I started to accept everything (feelings), I just became calm, and didn’t have anything to get mad about. Actually not that I didn’t have anything to get mad about but my threshold for being mad changed. My kids just do their stuff on their own. So, we decided that they’re going to just watch one more content, they would turn it off after that and put it back. And when they clean up, it’s not like they do it because they’re forced by mom… so they seem a little calm. The entire house seems calm. (Participant 4)
I think I’m learning about the value of feelings. (Because I did not know the value of feelings,) I did not take care of my feelings and didn’t consider other people’s feelings as important either and so I hurt them. (Anonymous)
I think I never asked my child why they wanted to keep watching (TV). “Why do you want to keep watching when you promised me not to?” They said, “I’m bored because you won’t play with me.” So, I asked once, “Oh, then how should I play with you?” “I want you to watch me when I play with the blocks.” So, I said, “Ok, then let’s do that,” and he would gladly do so. (Participant 9)
Since she can see the time on the smartphone, I talk with my child to agree with the time limit, like “The limit is 30 minutes, so you can play until 5:50,” and I have my child keep watch on the time and turn it off after that time. I was surprised that my child actually observes the time limit. I thought it wouldn’t work. Sometimes, my child goes over by 2, 3 min while watching a video, and when that happens, they would tell me, “Mom, I’ll just finish this video. I’m sorry.” I was so amazed. (Participant 1)
I changed my daily language after participating in the programme, and after I changed my language, my child’s language softened as well. My child was given rules, and I consoled them in my arms, so their crying voice changed. My child laughs and seems to have become more stable. (Participant 6)I’m so amazed. Before, I had to force my child and say, “Clean up!” But now, I tell my child, “Let’s clean up together later. Let’s clean up after I finish washing the dishes, ok?” And my child would start cleaning up while I’m doing the dishes. (Participant 4)